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  1. The Adventures of a Broke Travelista

    Oh dear you just broke my heart! Especially with point #4. lol

  2. Stacee

    OMG…too funny! This made me laugh. Never dated a chef–had a crush on one once. Now I’m glad I didn’t pursue him. 🙂

  3. Amelie F.

    Found the link on Twitter. I agree…this is too funny!! My bf’s a chef and I get so frustrated sometimes. Glad to know I’m not alone.

  4. TnT

    Haha!!! So true. I have dated several chefs…and not on purpose, lol. I just seem to be drawn like a magnet to these extreme people! I always find out AFTER the initial attraction that they are chefs. “D’oh!” is all I can say, lol! One thing you didn’t mention, though (maybe for the sake of propriety..?) is the rampant drinking and drugging. So sad, really. But yeah, chefs! Definitely some of the most fun in bed and out that I’ve had! I must say, though, I recently had my heart broken by a chef in Philly, so I don’t anticipate dating another one. But, like you, who can tell if I’ll be able to resist..!

    1. Iris "The Palate Princess" M.

      LOL…glad to know someone knows how I feel! Luckily, I’ve never experienced someone with a drug/drinking problem. That’s a total dealbreaker for me.

      1. TnT

        🙂 As far as the drinking/drugging, it’s a pretty well-known and prevalent restaurant industry issue; it’s actually shocking to me that you haven’t come across it in your culinary adventures. But I agree with you, definite romantic relationship deal breaker for me, too! Cheers 🙂

  5. Chef d

    Lmao is all I have to say. Your all silly

    1. Iris "The Palate Princess" M.

      How long have you been in the biz, Chef D? Are you local?

  6. anne

    As someone who gets to talk to a lot of chefs, i can understand the attraction. Guys who know how to cook are hot! But yeah, i see how intense and competitive the food industry can be, plus a lot of them are artists in their own right, so they’ve also got that temperament that goes with it.

  7. chelle

    Are executive chef known for cheating, know for prowling the internet for casual relationships, are they capable of true relationships and how do you know how he sees you as a partner or otherwise.

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  9. Karen

    …so I guess a woman can’t be a chef and make her living in a kitchen?!?

    1. Iris "The Palate Princess" M.

      Oh Karen, you missed the point of the article which was meant to be a lighthearted observation (from a personal viewpoint might I add) not an in-depth thinkpiece delineating and highlighting the gross discrimination and exclusion of women in the culinary world. (That’s a discussion for another day.) In any event, thank you for the comment.

  10. Eva F.

    I do LOVE how this article doesn’t even leave a chance open that a chef could be a female, like myself and many of my friends. We go on weekend dates and have healthy sex lives and even have hobbies!! Gee, just imagine. Do you ever think that MAYBE, just maybe the person you’re dating is using their work to avoid you and treat you badly NOT because they are a chef but because they just want to treat you like crap? Yes, chef’s are typically extreme people who never sleep but we are more than capable of having healthy normal dating lives outside work. Article is silly and baseless and if you believe it I’m glad, you probably don’t deserve to be with someone as rad as a chef.

    1. Iris "The Palate Princess" M.

      While I appreciate your comment, this article was written from the viewpoint of a heterosexual woman who, yes, dates men so naturally I am referring to male chefs. Am I negating the fact that a woman can be a chef??? My goodness, no! The suggestion is ridiculous. The article is also written from a PERSONAL viewpoint and based on my own experiences. Sheesh, lighten up.

  11. Craig

    My wife is a head chef and find your points to be exaggerated and superficial.

    1. Iris "The Palate Princess" M.

      Thanks, Craig. I appreciate your comment. Pass along my thanks to your wife as well. As a reminder, this post was written from a personal viewpoint and based solely on my experiences–experiences that are not subject to anyone else’s analysis.

  12. Lana

    I have been dating a chef for five years, and you summed up my experience in one quick article! I have often asked my chef boyfriend why he can’t take the time to balance his life a bit better, so that I don’t end up feeling so neglected, or like a third priority. He has tried, but bad habits creep up again. I’ve spent plenty nights waiting up for my chef to call me on his drive home, only to find out that he stayed at work and had a drink with the cooks to “unwind.” I don’t know how some people are able to be in happy relationships with chefs. Are they just much more relaxed and easygoing than I am? Or does their chef just try harder to make the relationship a priority. Either way, thanks for this lighthearted article. Made me feel a little less crazy. 😉

    1. Iris "The Palate Princess" M.

      Finally, someone who understands! There are so many beautiful aspects to a relationship with a chef but, sadly, there are also a lot of struggles that come along with the territory. Stay strong! 🙂

  13. Kristen

    I agree completely. I’m currently dating a chef and he claims to want to marry me and love me, etc. but spends his free time scrolling through instagram looking at food or interrupts what I’m saying to talk about a menu idea. It makes me feel like food is more important than anything I have to offer. Sucks sometimes.

    1. Iris "The Palate Princess" M.

      Oh, Kristen–I completely understand. I’ve definitely thrown my share of cell phones against the wall! (Kidding.) I love and admire chefs’ passion but their romantic relationships often take a backseat to their profession.

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