A plate of chocolate chip cookies and a bottle of milk

On Grief and Baking

by
2 mins read

In November, my 35 year-old niece died suddenly and unexpectedly, and it has been devastating for our family–especially for my three young nephews (her children). I, a childless woman of a certain age, find myself raising three young boys as we grieve and navigate our new normal. I find that baking or cooking can be a soothing way to navigate through the waves of grief. The kitchen is normally my happy place, but in times of sadness and grief, it is my haven. My safe space. The healing space.

The rhythmic process of measuring, mixing, and creating brings a sense of control and mindfulness, offering a quiet space for reflection. So, here I am, in my kitchen somewhere between witching and waking hours, gathering ingredients while the children are sleeping and trying to create a little Christmas magic for them. They are well past the point of believing in Santa, though they still love the silly little traditions of the season. So, a plate of cookies for the jolly fat man it is. I find that the act of cooking can provide a tangible outlet for emotions, as I struggle to fight back tears. But soon, the delicious aroma that fills the kitchen brings a familiar warmth and a sense of connection to all those I’ve lost, creating a space where healing is gently nurtured through food.

And I am, once again, reminded why the kitchen is my healing place.

Ingredients

1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, softened  

1 cup granulated sugar 

1/2 cup light brown sugar, packed  

1 large egg 

1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract 

2 cups all-purpose flour  

1 teaspoon baking soda  

1/2 teaspoon salt  

1 1/2 cups good quality semisweet chocolate chips (I prefer Callebaut)

Instructions

1. Preheat the Oven 

Preheat your oven to 350°F (175°C). Line two baking sheets with parchment paper or silicone baking mats.

2. Cream the Butter and Sugars 

In a large mixing bowl, use a hand or stand mixer to cream the butter, granulated sugar, and brown sugar until light and fluffy, about 2-3 minutes.

3. Add Wet Ingredients  

Beat in the egg and vanilla extract until well combined.

4. Combine Dry Ingredients  

In a separate bowl, whisk together the flour, baking soda, and salt. Gradually add the dry ingredients to the wet ingredients, mixing just until combined. Do not overmix.

5. Add the Chocolate Chips  

Fold in the chocolate chips with a spatula or wooden spoon.

6. Shape the Cookies  

Scoop rounded tablespoons of dough and place them on the prepared baking sheets, spacing them about 2 inches apart to allow for spreading.

7. Bake  

Bake in the preheated oven for 10-12 minutes, or until the edges are golden brown and crispy. The centers may look slightly soft but will firm up as the cookies cool.

8. Cool  

Let the cookies cool on the baking sheet for 5 minutes, then transfer them to a wire rack to cool completely.

Tips for Extra Crispiness

  • Use room temperature butter for better incorporation with sugars.
  • For thinner, crispier cookies, slightly flatten the dough balls before baking.
  • Replace part of the flour with almond flour for an even crispier texture.
  • Bake a minute or two longer for a darker, crisper cookie (watch closely to avoid burning).

Food + travel writer | Author of Food Lovers' Guide to Philadelphia and Main Squeeze: Juicing Recipes for Your Healthiest Self

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

About

Welcome to PALATE, your ultimate destination for the modern woman with a passion for food, travel, and lifestyle content. We're here to inspire and provide you with curated culinary experiences, breathtaking travel destinations, and empowering lifestyle stories.

Follow Us

Most Popular

Popular

1 A plate of chocolate chip cookies and a bottle of milk

On Grief and Baking

In November, my 35 year-old niece died suddenly and unexpectedly, and it has been devastating for our family–especially for my three young…

Authors

Ceramic German mug from local Christmas market
Previous Story

The Best European Christmas Markets of 2024

Latest from Blog

New York City’s Hottest Drink is…Illegal

The most sought-after cocktail in New York City is not available in any bar. It’s an unlicensed street drink whose creator, a local entrepreneur, is looking to go legit. I caught up with Amseshem Foluke to get the whole story… The day had barely dawned, but the phone’s alarm wailed,…
Sexmuseum Amsterdam

Unusual Museums Around the World

I’ve always been drawn to obscure things; I’ve never been attracted to the normal or what the cool kids were doing. In particular, I enjoy the unusual and the macabre—blame it on an enduring love of the works of Edgar Allan Poe—and I always seem to seek out bizarre and…

10 Things to Do in Havana, Cuba

For most Americans born after the 1958 embargo, Cuba has remained an island of mystery even though it’s only 105 miles off the shore of Key West, Florida. We know very little of Cuba–perhaps only the 3 c’s–Communism, cars, and cigars, but the destination is so much more than that. The island is…
Ceramic German mug from local Christmas market

The Best European Christmas Markets of 2024

As winter sets in and festive lights illuminate the streets, European Christmas markets transform cities into magical wonderlands. Here’s your ultimate guide to the best European Christmas markets of 2024, each offering unique charms, seasonal treats, and unforgettable experiences. Christkindlesmarkt | Nuremberg, Germany Location: Hauptmarkt Square, Nuremberg Duration: November 29…

The Famous Peach Liqueur of Cochem, Germany

Germany’s Mosel Valley is dotted with lush greenery, storybook castles, and endless stretches of vineyards and it is also the place where I decided to search for a bit of calm during a whirlwind tour of Europe last summer. I found myself in the little town of Cochem–the epicenter of…
GoUp